Resolving

Movable finish lines are really easy to cross. - cracked.com

Resolutions have to come from inside and new year resolutions are a stupid way to promise anything to yourself. Not only do they tend to fail, they exemplify why one should not promise anything when happy.

"The happiness of your life depends upon the quality of your thoughts." - Marcus Aurelius

As the moment of parting nears, a morbid feeling to escape the circumstance develops, forcing even the staunchest of hearts to bleed emotions. Rationalized behavior is hard to fathom in the times of desperation. For a response to be devoid of any bias, relational attachment has to die and that state cannot be achieved once a relation is established, even if it is an unknown person with a recognizable face. Strangely, even a stranger has an established relationship.

"Strong hope is a much greater stimulant of life than any single realized joy could be." - Friedrich Nietzsche

Living in the cocoon of safety, its difficult to realize the importance of being loved and cared for even at the cost of tolerating idiosyncrasies. It is with great cost that one realizes the mistakes of wanting to rebel without a cause. Experience always teaches with utmost care, ensuring the learning is not lost. It first tells politely and only when there is failure to listen and learn does it opt for harshness. There is unfortunately no choice offered in terms of whether there is a wish to learn. Life just doesn't move on until the particular lesson is learnt, however much the mind denies. The more the resistance, the greater the adversity. It thus ensures every pupil is destined to achieve the passing grade and ready for what lies beyond death.

Asking for incorrect things and making incredibly stupid mistakes is what actually made us bold and dare to question. It is absolutely unfair to second guess the past, especially when it belongs to someone else. The day is never too far when the tables are turned. So be careful what you ask for, you might just get it exactly!

Jæi

(Of course I clicked the snap attached to this post, incredibly, using the mobile phone camera!)

For the first time, felt envious. Like there was something dear missing which ideally, I felt entitled to own. Having never believed in a life free of regret, the fleeting moments of realization are filled with sadness, bringing forsaken thoughts of unrealistic expectation to the front. Consoling oneself with the knowledge, that the times already past can neither be changed nor undone - only makes matters worse by inducing a feeling of helplessness.

A humorous thought expressing need based change but conveying an essential choice was made by Groucho Marx. It went like this: Those are my principles, and if you don't like them.. well, I have others.

Strange, how humor manifests itself only in other peoples pain. Ones own experiences seem futile when it comes to laughing. It is because ego comes in the way of making life nonchalant; ensuring seriousness in an otherwise inconsequential existence. If the purpose of life was to be happy, more than a decade must have been wasted(in my life) distancing the soul from attaining its rightful place.

The pursuit of materialistic ownership actually empties the heart, forcing it to find a sense of fulfillment where none exists. A response to compensate for a lack of emotion leads to the extreme ends of disturbance in mind and subsequently affects the quality of life drastically. Obviously, this does not go unnoticed and leads to a performance related anxiety affecting all aspects of life. Over powering such shortcomings is very difficult as the mind keeps getting distracted and losing focus. Immense will as well as strong desire are the prerequisites to be cured.

Contrary to popular opinion, most people affected, do not even have any "want" to be better. Satisfaction is the one thing to do without in this instance. Its more of a resistance to do better and improve upon, rather than being surreal and wanting more. Acceptance of ones disposition is blamed on fate and denotes resignation causing the death of desire. The secret is to repeatedly keep saying 'NO!' again and again to avoid being lured into the trap. Declining once or twice to the invite of an escape is simply not going to cut it. So, good luck and have more!

Even so

No one cares how much you know, until they know how much you care. - Theodore Roosevelt

How do you deal with death even if you know its inevitable? The reality of experiencing it is too difficult to contemplate. Life goes on - seems too cruel, however true. Some things are better left unsaid. Portraying care towards fellow beings is far less intense than being careful about near and dear ones. The social conditions which force incredible sadness at a loss are also responsible for the superficial morals enforced upon the closest people. Superstition rises due to fear of the repercussions.

Loneliness makes one compromise and offer truce to anyone offering an escape route, which leads to formation of guilt and a life filled with regret. The correction of mistakes is delayed indefinitely to save the pain of having to face the wronged. It is never too late to learn - but it is always too early to earn! Years spent on building trust are superseded by minutes used get destroyed by suspicion.

Caring is not the same as loving. A nurse is caring where as a mother is loving. The question however is, can one become a replacement for the other? And the answer is that both are mutually independent and can exist without the other. Luv can turn into another feeling and is not permanent, which is why it needs to constantly be reassured by promises of eternity. Where as, care is mostly permanent and exists longer once realized. Arguments can of course be made on the very opposite as well, but fact remains that perspectives change and the state of ones mind dictates how interpretations are made.

There's no your reality and my reality, its only a point of view. It can be flawed. It will evolve. And it is bound to change.

Victor

Smiling without any reason in the presence of another person is not always madness, it can also be luv. But then again, there's such little difference between the two, its hardly discernible.

Against the perception of hard work, people who actually undergo the experience shouldn't feel that way. Its a different thing if its forcible, which of course is mostly the case. Going through the motions is often a matter of principle and becomes a moral obligation making one feel and feed on guilt. Emotional well being and its health is frequently ignored in favor of physical characteristics. While there's nothing wrong with it, a balanced approach is a lot more desirable, just like other things in life.

So what is the solution? Does one sacrifice the whole of remaining days of life living a lie? Is it so wrong to ensure the other half is safe in the presumption that luv is forever and truthfully complete? What about living a full life and being drowned in admirable affection? Most addictions in life are born out of a physical need to be accepted. The powerful forces of needing affection drive a needy to live out a life without feeling any necessity to be socially accepted. When confronted with reality of lagging behind, any number of excuses take shape from partial reality.

The rebel without any cause is always waiting to be unleashed. There are many reasons to commit to a shortcut instead of a long drawn out battle against ones will. It feels like a biased game with rules always in favor of the home team and odds stacked against the visitors. The glory is only in winning. At least, that's what it feels like.

Bold

"It is the cause, not the death, that makes the martyr." - Napoleon Bonaparte

So what do you want to die for?

Skeptics say its not death but life which is more difficult. Further, it is said that cowards are the only one's thinking of suicide. But have they ever tried to even think of killing themselves? Its neither an easy task nor repeatable. So no one knows for sure how it feels to die. Whether or not there is any pain.

One things for sure, its not without a reason that fear of dying is thought of as number one. In spite of being inevitable, and the only thing certain, its yet to be over come by the fickle mind and its emotional attachments. Knowledge of this certainty hardly prepares one to accept it. While it can be argued that ones own demise can still be contemplated, the thought of not being able to experience the company of a loved one, ever again, is what frightens us.

The images of a limp lifeless body of a dear one are extremely scary. However much one tries to escape, the mind always manages to conjure up the worst possible outcome. A yogi once said "the content of your mind is not in your control." It can learn and absorb things in unimaginable ways and is the reason why our species evolve and dominate in our known world.

Coming back, being a martyr is held to be in high esteem as it signifies a selfless life sacrificed for the sake of freedom or protection of ones belief. The belief itself can be in the form of either a country or a religion and is claimed to be highly rewarding in the supposed after life.

"Only those are fit to live who do not fear to die; and none are fit to die who have shrunk from the joy of life and the duty of life. Both life and death are parts of the same Great Adventure." - Theodore Roosevelt

Heartfelt

Feelings and emotions have a way of overpowering the judgement of a sound mind in such an overzealous manner, that all logical calculations are squarely dumped. The essence of salt is not thought of until it is absent(or excessive). Similarly, actions are not judged before they give rise to a consequence.

Betrayal causes one to be strong by killing the greatest weakness of man - his emotions. Its far more beneficial to experience those momentary depths of intense sadness than to be paralyzed for life by the fear of facing them someday. Its counter intuitive to think one could play hardball with ones emotions. They have an innate need to be felt and occur naturally. In order to deal with them, one has to let them flow without impeding their natural tendency. As a matter of fact, emotions can heal the mental scars caused by stress and trauma and indicate a persons well being.

"Out of your vulnerabilities will come your strength." - Sigmund Freud

Time is a great healer. However difficult might it seem to think ones sorrows will not go away, they always do. Just like every dawg has its day, all beings have their share of emotions, both good, as well as bad. The one thing we fail to realize is that life goes on. It's not going to stop for anybody in spite of feeling indispensable. The need for proceeding teaches everything and makes one realize that adapting to evolving circumstances is one of the greatest virtues of nature. If anything stops for anyone, its demise is most certain.

Although, one can safely say that the lessons of time do leave noticeable scars. There is no question of whether you want to learn. The only choice life gives is the manner in which you choose to learn, the easy or the hard way. Disappointment hardly arises because there is no ranking, there's only pass or fail without any comparison.

Be

"The real man smiles in trouble, gathers strength from distress, and grows brave by reflection." - Thomas Paine

Then what about an unreal man? The definition of man in this context, lies in an imaginary being full of righteousness and unfailing in his hope to triumph. It's an imaginary and unreal assumption of a man who was created for the sole purpose of comparison and rebuke. Man cannot exist without any vice, its an essential element of being human and is required for virtues to exist.

"Men become wise just as they become rich, more by what they save than by what they receive." - Wilbur Wright

If offered a choice between power and wealth, what would you choose? Any intelligent being knows that one is futile without the other. Moreover it is not possible to quantify either of them just like gravity. We can know the laws governing them but can't define what they actually are and this is a surprising revealation for many.

The utopian beliefs of society do not permit the revelations of science to be openly accepted, this in turn forces the truth to manifest in the form of art, giving rise to legends. Having faith in these legends and interpreting them as originally intended is a complex phenomenon bound to mislead because of ones perceptions. In summation, the mysteries surrounding the conception of thoughts are laid out to be solved, by the emotionally charged feelings.

Birth

Any more and it would have been over confidence, any less and it would be without greatness.

"I don't do fashion, I AM fashion." - Coco Chanel

Restless

Experience taught that the issues faced by our own self are feeble compared to the ones "continuously faced and 'overcome' by others" in the world. Being absorbed in ourselves, we fail miserably to notice life being kind to us. It's essential to realize that we mostly receive a better deal than what is truly deserved. Yes, I mean it. There is no valid reason for us to be living like this, like we are, like giving up and feeling lost without fighting.

Charlie Chaplin had said "you'll never find a rainbow if you're looking down."

So, why is it that very, very few people manage to live life to its most beautiful extent? Ignoring karmic compulsions and all the things beyond our control, why do we continuously choose to ignore balance and embrace extremity?

Still don't remember when was the last time I laughed with an open heart and felt truly happy.. and that's the simple and honest truth, however looked! This realization is probably bridging the gap and connecting the present time., bridging the two similar points in time of "should have been" and "have been."

It had to come one day or the other.. its a journey somehow destined to be undertaken. Don't know the 'why,' but hopefully through with it.

If you can't be a star in the sky, atleast be a beacon of light on the ground - Swamy Vivekananda.

When being selfish becomes the least of your vices, the ego ensures dominance of fate. The recurrence of certain impossible delays in getting simple things done seems to have an eerily sinister under current. Why would the predicament surface with such alacrity? Especially when plans were showed to seek blessings and HE knows it!

Then again, one can never be too sure as it could all just be my over achieving jobless imagination working at full blast!

Commonly so

[ ] Lonely
[ ] Wrong
[ ] Prickly
[ ] Negative
[ ] Inactive
[ ] Common
[ ] Powerless
[ ] Insensitive
[ ] Careless
[ ] Rebellious
[ ] Confused
[ ] Uncontrollable
[ ] Awful
[ ] Dead
[ ] Bent
[ ] Miser
[ ] Forgetful
[ ] Boring
[ ] Lazy
[ ] Unfit
[ ] Purposeless
[ ] Evil
[ ] Uneducated
[ ] Frustrated
[ ] Adamant
[ ] Harsh
[ ] Indifferent
[ ] Cruel
[ ] Foolish
[ ] Provocative
[ ] Thoughtless
[ ] Perverted
[ ] Greedy
[ ] Thankless
[ ] Unworthy
[ ] Fickle minded
[ ] Wayward
[ ] Weak
[ ] Cowardly
[ ] Suspicious
[ ] Insecure
[ ] Jealous
[ ] Cheap
[ ] Immature

Despond

1. Must I give up on all hope to get my desires fulfilled?

2. Should I discard all beliefs to gain on expectations?

3. Is this a test or am I paying for some unknown sins?

4. Why is fate tempting me to give up on my destiny?

5. Do I even know anything? Haven't I learnt?

6. Are my basics so flawed that the advanced stands no chance?

7. Was my foundation built on quick sand instead of a steady rock support?

8. What could possibly be the purpose of my existence?

9. Why should I bother to find out and fulfill my mission in life? Is it an emotional blackmail?

10. How can I find out what I am best at, what am I born to do?

11. Why don't I yet know what I want?

12. How can I travel to the place if I don't know where I want to go?

13. Why does a feeling of emptiness haunt me?

14. Why do I always seem to run away from loneliness bearing my heart especially at sun down?

15. Why can I not attain stillness of mind inspite of knowing its importance?

Depressive thoughts are not imaginationary. They can affect anyone at anytime impartially. Historically, depression has had a profound effect on the qualitative output of artists. It's known to spur the creative juices of people in both, the scientific as well as artistic fields.

Success introduces you to the world but, failure introduces the world to you - or so it seems.

"The best remedy for those who are afraid, lonely or unhappy is to go outside, somewhere where they can be quiet, alone with the heavens, nature and God. Because only then does one feel that all is as it should be." - Anne Frank

Brilliant wisdom

Have a cigar

After ages, felt the need to hear.

Come in here, dear boy, have a cigar,
you're gonna go far, you're gonna fly high,
You're never gonna die,
you're gonna make it if you try; they're gonna love you.

Well I've always had a deep respect, and I mean that most sincerely.
The band is just fantastic, that is really what I think;
Oh by the way, which one's Pink?
And did we tell you the name of the game, boy,
we call it Riding the Gravy Train.

We're just knocked out.
We heard about the sell out.
You gotta get an album out,
You owe it to the people.
We're so happy we can hardly count.
Everybody else is just green,
have you seen the chart?
It's a helluva start, it could be made into a monster if we all pull together as a team.
And did we tell you the name of the game, boy, we call it Riding the Gravy Trail.

Sustenance

Things do not happen when you least expect it, they happen after you give up.

Expecting the least is still being hopeful just like expecting the most, just that the quantity is different. Expectations by nature are bound to the limits of our hopeful nature. Fulfilling them depends on the level of anxiety caused and can subside as time passes us by. Failure to calm the mind by accepting the circumstances results in a wide variety of disorders causing an emotional drain of energy but is augmented by the belief of having lost. Awareness does not always lead to an increased understanding of the underlying cause. A man ego does not permit a loss.

Not receiving the desired when fascinated, kills the want in the name of value and is frequently dictated by the compulsions of being helpless.

Popular wisdom

Collected from a wide variety of sources.

It's not what you look at that matters, it's what you see - Henry David Thoreau.

How can I go forward when I don't know which way I'm facing? - John Lennon.

I hope that I may always desire more than I can accomplish - Michelangelo.

Everything we hear is an opinion, not a fact. Everything we see is a perspective, not the truth - Marcus Aurelius.

Go to heaven for the climate and hell for the company - Mark Twain.

If you can't love yourself you won't be able to love others - the Dalai Lama.

Resentment is like drinking poison and then hoping it will kill your enemies - Nelson Mandela.

The essence of knowledge is, having it, to apply it; not having it, to confess your ignorance - Confucius.

Clemency

Patience eventually runs out for everyone as the mind labels it a test to qualify for mercy. Should the need arise, one shouldn't hesitate to demand attention instead of expecting it voluntarily. 'Realizing' in itself does not guarantee any corrective action. The only good coming of it is the knowledge gained.

Providence demands a sacrifice even if it arises out of a sense of duty. Depending on it does not lead to any form of immunity from accumulated karma. Although, doing penance out of guilt is known to save one from retribution, it does nothing to prevent time from repetation.

It is thought that 'cause' is followed by 'effect' and is presumed to be a universal law. Being in the very nature of things, to be understood, it is very difficult to wrap one's head around anything which defies conventional wisdom. Yet, science continues to be evolving around evidential proof and not historical myths. It's a different story, that legends continue to survive the ravages of time.

Krishn: the man who lived like God

Following are a few excerpts from the book.

Page 282.

Love is not at the mercy of reasons. It survives in a spiritual halo. The more enlightened you are the more your love expands.
Those in love have high expectations from thei.

Page 279.

There's a vast difference between being alone and being lonely. We often mistake one for the other which influences our interpretations.

Page 280.

Lonelyness is a part of human nature and nobody is free from it. Those who come to terms with it, slowly begin to enjoy it, they relish those moments and are at peace. Its only when you come to terms with being alone that you emerge complete.

Page 258.

Life itself is full of contradictions. There are multiple images of the same moment which are interpreted according to our changing perspectives.

Page 257.

To love is not to possess.. to desire for their happiness and endeavour for the same is also love.

There is no controlling over desire.

Page 252.

Time to linger over goodbye's is over.

Waiting is futile. To wait everyday, every moment for something is not living but yearning.. instead of forever waiting to receive something, it's better to accept ones every breath as an extension of life.. that would be truthful and meaningful.

Those who live today, in the hope that something may transpire tomorrow, will live tomorrow in the hope of something transpiring the day after. They fail to live life abundantly because they are rooted in future, ignorant that tomorrow and day after will be an identical exercise.. Whatever has to be will be and will happen in the present.

Its the one without hope who doesn't mind ending his life today.

If I am granted all the powers of the cosmos or even half the power of the heavens, there is no guarantee that I can wipe away the worries of all the angels.

Is freedom from life freedom from yearning?

Page 240.

Doubts are born when expectations arise above affection.

Page 238.

Most of what troubles us is self-created.

Love is a flower which blossoms for anyone at anytime.

It has no trappings and comes without pressures.

We are so cautious that we refrain from and are willing to accept a life without love but are unwilling to accept someone we love to be in love with someone else

Page 237.

If we look for specific identities in men and women, men thrive on ego and women on envy. They both are an active and passive emotions of each other.

Page 234.

Radha: the only thing I know is that I cannot live without you..
Krishn: life is consistent my beloved, it continues to flow like a river. Sometimes with pristine, sparkling water and other times with muddy and mucky waters. But the flow does not stop, whether I am there today or not tomorrow.

Page 282.

Love is not at the mercy of reasons. It survives in a spiritual halo. The more enlightened you are the more your love expands.

Those in love have high expectations from their attachments.

Page 279.

There's a vast difference between being alone and being lonely. We often mistake one for the other which influences our interpretations.

Page 280.

Lonelyness is a part of human nature and nobody is free from it. Those who come to terms with it, slowly begin to enjoy it, they relish those moments and are at peace. Its only when you come to terms with being alone that you emerge complete.

Page 258.

Life itself is full of contradictions. There are multiple images of the same moment which are interpreted according to our changing perspectives.

Page 257.

To love is not to possess.. to desire for their happiness and endeavour for the same is also love.

There is no controlling over desire.

Page 252.

Time to linger over goodbye's is over.

Waiting is futile. To wait everyday, every moment for something is not living but yearning.. instead of forever waiting to receive something, it's better to accept ones every breath as an extension of life.. that would be truthful and meaningful.

Those who live today, in the hope that something may transpire tomorrow, will live tomorrow in the hope of something transpiring the day after. They fail to live life abundantly because they are rooted in future, ignorant that tomorrow and day after will be an identical exercise.. Whatever has to be will be and will happen in the present.

Its the one without hope who doesn't mind ending his life today.

If I am granted all the powers of the cosmos or even half the power of the heavens, there is no guarantee that I can wipe away the worries of all the angels.

Is freedom from life freedom from yearning?

Page 240.

Doubts are born when expectations arise above affection.

Page 238.

Most of what troubles us is self-created.

Love is a flower which blossoms for anyone at anytime.

It has no trappings and comes without pressures.

We are so cautious that we refrain from and are willing to accept a life without love but are unwilling to accept someone we love to be in love with someone else.

Page 237.

If we look for specific identities in men and women, men thrive on ego and women on envy. They both are an active and passive emotions of each other.

Page 234.

Radha: the only thing I know is that I cannot live without you..
Krishn: life is consistent my beloved, it continues to flow like a river. Sometimes with pristine, sparkling water and other times with muddy and mucky waters. But the flow does not stop, whether I am there today or not there tomorrow.

Page 234. Radha: without you, everything will be desolate and lonely here.
Krishn: I'll always be here and eternally beside you..

Our journeys are a process of our minds.. in reality, there's no such thing. What exists is a time span of our journey from one point to another and its this journer we call our identity.

At this moment, we are lost into each other but the moment before and after are moments consumed in travel. Every moment of our existance is gradually leading us to our departure. End is inevitable. The only question is when.. that's the only question we don't have an answer for. If we did, our journey's would never be as interesting or challenging.

Page 233.

Radha: are you going somewhere? Leaving? Krishn: yes, I've to move ahead and I've no right to turn back. I am time and I can't look back even if I want to, Radhike. Even if you want to. R: I don't follow your complicated conversation. In any case, you have always done what you wished to. Have you ever lived thinking about others? Whatever you believe in, becomes the truth and whatever you follow becomes duty. K: I accept I am independent as only an independent individual has the freedom of choice. I depart because I wish to and came here because I had no other option. The one who is independent is also responsible. He's responsible to liberate others as only a free soul can grant freedom to others. If I get bound what will happen to the others suffering? I know you are not self centered and I cannot be so because I am detached from self. jatkar | 11/25 at 10:32 am

Bound by promises, I am helpless. I am bound by time and my time is running out. Today its your time to leave, Someday it will be mine, and I'll depart too.

Page 231. It is my misfortune that I'll never greet the morning sunlight looking into your eyes said Krishna.

My mornings are destined for someone else replied Radha

Page 232.

Krishna: your eyes are damp
Radha: that's because you look at me with moist eyes.
K: will you cry when I depart?
R: would you be pleased if I did?
K: is it possible for me to rejoice when you are in tears?
R: that's how it has been all these years Kaanha.. you harass me, make me cry, hound me.. isnt that harassment? K: that was.. just a game.
R: and what is this? K: this is reality. R: sometimes its a game and other times reality. Where do I fit in to all this? K: you are a part of me and therefore a part of my games as well as reality. What I cannot experience directly, I live through you!

Lead

'You live according to your own heart.'
Thinking about it later on in the night, realization struck, living life on one's own terms does not mean it is fulfilling, satisfactory and happy. Those comments either arise out of envy or by immense regret. Having surrendered to the will of others, one can never hope to be free. In the end, the responsibility will always rest on one's own shoulder's, however much you try to shun it, irrespective of whether you heed to other's advice or not.

No one likes to accept the blame for having lead a miserable life, and that includes the self. If no ones willing to accept this responsibility, how can success be embraced? There is no profit to be made without factoring in any form of risk.

Risk is another concept widely misunderstood. There's nothing you can do without risk. Life itself is very risky. Decreasing the possibility of an undesired outcome to an acceptable level of comfort is generally considered to be without any risk. It is far from the truth however. Only after an unexpected incident occurs, do we realize the amount of risk involved in the activity.

Our minds get programmed by the circumstances to have a unique risk profile. It varies according to the gene pool and gets reinforced everytime we make a decision and observe the outcome. Contrary to what one might asssume, a persons risk perception is not constant and changes with time. Infact, it is even possible to affect a change and tailor a persons mind to tolerate a particular type and amount of risk which they can accept.

Doing new things is almost always risky, yet many people do it. They thrive on taking risk. Apparently, the roots of this behavior are genetic and are controlled by the mind using two hormones called dopamine and serotonin. These are naturally occurring, reward based chemicals used by the mind to control various bodily functions and react as life unravels the mysteries of time. These chemicals are also known to be the actual cause of addictions as the level of production and its supply is highly regulated as well as limited. Moreover, the conditions leading to this reward keep on becoming more and more difficult as the level of tolerance grows with repetition.

Dopamine is also understood to create a sense of elation and a heightened state of indescribable satisfaction and fulfillment, often compared with being in love.

Ingenuity of the human mind

What is it that should define God? Trying to define an entity called God itself is unthinkable. By virtue of being the owner of everything in existence including ourselves, trying to define God is like thinking about how thoughts are thought out. It's similar to gravity, which is known to exist but cannot be defined even if we are aware of the laws binding it.

The thing to think about is, who would have come up with the concept of God in the first place? It's obvious to conclude that religion would have been born afterwards just like different pathways are created towards a destination, once it is known. Similar to how there can exist different roads to journey upon, different religion's were formed. One can also presume why anyone would have wanted to control or monopolize the access to reach the destination, by creating rules to be followed in the form of religion. And history is littered with evidence of how much strife was caused by the birth of various religions. But what remains unknown is who would have created the original concept of God in the first place? And why?

Logically speaking, faculties like emotion hardly have any reason to exist in a world where nature's law of survival is predominant. They give rise to weakness which countermands the basic tenet of nature. The only true feelings of life would have been those of hunger & thirst - which are essential to live. This would probably be followed closely by procreation, which again is another form of ensuring continuity, albeit for the larger cause of preserving one's own species.

So if there is no need, what-so-ever, to have any form of emotion to survive, what gave rise to compassion? The answer may lie in the primal sense of 'fear.' Contrary to popular opinion translating fearfulness into cowardice, fear is what has ensured our survival, against all odds. It is the minds way of ensuring our body's reaction spontaneously, to safeguard against threat's of known as well as unknown origin.

It is not possible to determine the scope of the unknown because we are unaware of the extent to which complete knowledge resides. Subsequently, the more one discovers, the higher the understanding of the unknown. Strangely, its become such, that we continuously choose to believe in a future, which belittles our existence; for the sake of a past, which empowers the present.

Secrets

You never achieve success unless you like what you are doing - Dale Carnegie.

That is probably why so few people achieve become successful. Mostly, people get along in life doing what's doable in order to survive. It's not that anyone likes to do a job they don't like for an entire lifetime, there simply isn't any choice.

Passing a judgement on what someone's doing for a living is easy. Just start pointing out the mistakes and criticize everything they do! Laying out expectations which can't be achieved and bringing out the worst in a person is relatively easy. Inspiring someone to perform at the desired levels and motivating to bring out their best is the difficult part which defines a leader.

What happens realistically is that people try to find happiness in what they do for a living rather than doing something which makes them happy. No one likes to dig their own grave; purposefully or otherwise. It's the societal compulsions which force a person to forego the options to choose.

It's also important to realize what it is that makes one happy. Contrary to what is popularly believed, not everyone knows what is it exactly that makes them happy. So how would it be possible to choose the work which would cause life long happiness? What you want to do can be very different from what you can do and what you are good at doing. It is the culmination of these three into one single thing which creates a happy and successful life.

Suddenly furious

Nobody foregoes the opportunity to provide unsolicited advice. The habit has become a universal law which everyone seems to abide by, even if they dislike it when used against their own selves! It is equally true of 'comparison' as well and is truly unwarranted.

Sometimes people give advice by comparasion and other times, it becomes the cause of it. The practice of giving advice professionally is of course a highly paying job and requires considerable life experience. It's one of those few things which only get better with age. Wine being the most popular example. Being selfish is a very naturally occurring phenomena arising out of struggle. Selfishness is not always considered to be a vice in the modern society and is often considered to be a necessity in order to persevere life.

As the need to communicate socially increases, conversations frequently lead to a necessity of finding common grounds. Randomly commenting on issues may lead to differences in opinion which are deemed to be anti-social in nature. It also brings out one's true opinion which has the risk of derailing a prospective beneficial relationship. Understanding an independently formed opinion was(& still is) considered to be a taboo as it was deemed to question an established power base causing unrest.

A comparative study of historic facts and religious beliefs shows the rise and fall of empire's simply because of selfish desires to stay in power. In a way - why should it be wrong? It's similar to thinking one should not do anything which gives you pleasure.

Some how, history brought about this philosophy that it is only through pain and sacrifice can one attain God. Apparently, act's which give pleasure and happiness are evil. Why? As long as one's actions do not purposefully hurt or harm other beings, doing something to make oneself happy should be of no consequence to anyone else! Isn't it being jealous and evil to hinder other's from fulfilling their desires? It's infuriating to think that satisfaction can lead to accumulation of bad karma.

Guilt by association

How much suffrage must a man endure from his guilty past to actually be in this moment, sit quietly, lay back and see the sun rising on a winter morning? Is having hope dangerous because it makes one yearn for a future even if there isn't one. Some believe that hope never dies. It appears to be that way because we always wish to have a better tomorrow. Atleast, better than today! Hope is a good thing to have because it makes us look forward to the future positively. In all earnestness, it is a ray of light dispelling the darkness in one's life.

However, it has its moments of weakness just like everything else. It affects everyone equally without any discrimination and helps even the guilty escape their mental prison's by helping them dream. Judging other's has been a common passtime human's indulge in and is based on moral compulsions.

Morality however, never applied to the victorious armies of past, who seldom behaved in a manner befitting a civilized race and were hell bent on destruction of the unfortunate losers. The king's and general's actually treated the oppressed enemy's population as objects and looted their wealth and integrity. They also compensated their famished soldier's by gifting them the opportunity to fulfill their desires without any consequential repercussions.

All these events from history makes one think of the times which influenced decision's leading to the event's. Makes one think how stupid or ingenious were those people. Makes one wonder how different would things be if you yourself were there in those time's. But the fact of the matter which one doesn't realize is; you end up second guessing the past based on the knowledge you've acquired by reading books sitting in the comfortable chair of the present time's. It's sometimes difficult to realize that your wisdom is the cumulative product of those very same mistakes committed in the past. Things would be very different had you been in the past or if the lessons from the past were not recorded. Merely gaining superior know-how should not ideally entitle anyone to use it unfairly. But then again, we don't live in an ideal world and morality is only used to gain an unfair advantage by blaming others.

Romeo

If only you gave a good enough reason to have believed, I'd be a more trusting person.

Perhaps the argument can be prolonged by questioning the motives behind the rumor's, failing to believe your innocence has had a lot to do with the initial perception created in the first few encounters. The hideousness of your untold truths still burn in the embers of my broken heart. The raging fury of your feigned ignorance has cast a long shadow of mistrust, forever having misjudged, your purest of intentions arising out of love, can no longer cure my suspicious and jealous heart.

Other men may envy my winning of your heart, they realize not, the sacrifice on my part. Little do they know, what went on in our past; I'd hate for this to be true my darling, but looks like I've already lost.

Rainbow's sheen

Love should not be a source of constant pain. In spite of the best intentions, it frequently becomes so.  The pain inflicted should logically lead to the demise., but logic has got nothing to do with love as the heart fails to adhere to the governing laws. Reason too fails to rein in the runaway heart.

The incredibly selfless heart of a woman in love, knows no bounds and is very sacrificial in nature. Just observe the level of tolerance between lovers or a mother with her child.. it's obviously incomparable.

So, for the one who loves me so dearly, the one who encompasses a new season of spring;
in the vastness of the clearest blue sky, I pray thus:

Blessed be thy life,
for you complete me.
Mark these words in stone,
as the waves erase me.
No reason made you give up,
an indespicable me.
You are truly my better half,
in a majority of me,
You power my flight's of fancy,
in your reach I will forever be.
Regrets of a life forlorn,
beyond your heart in peace.
You've been true inspiration,
and an unfathomable glee,
Helped guide my soul,
even in my death you will be.

However, love does not necessarily return the favor and can bring out the worst fear's of a lonely heart as well. Its destiny seldom lies in a world filled with promise. It is in the fate of a loving heart to make an incredibly passionate work of art. Justifying an emotionally charged flow of creativity is often paid for in the currency of extreme sadness.